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Three homeschool moms discuss myths about socializing homeschooled children and the freedom homeschooling can give children and families.

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JUNE: Yeah, and I mean, what is homeschooling? Yeah, it’s not isolated.

MAGGIE: No, I mean it’s communities, it’s being a community with other families who are living that way.

CHRISTINA: People would say, do you just stay at home all day? Do your children have any friends? Do they ever get out and talk to people? Do they know how to talk to people?

JUNE: Okay, this thing drives me crazy.

CHRISTINA: I know, because it’s-

JUNE: Christina it’s when I’m around your kids, they can talk to a baby. Your teenagers can hang out with a baby. If an 80 year old sat down with them.

CHRISTINA: Right and I think that’s such the benefit of homeschooling. You’re not in a room with you know, 20 third graders-

MAGGIE: Yes, yes.

CHRISTINA: Or six graders or seventh graders. You are with a family with a baby or a grandmother or a great grandmother or a neighbor down the street. Or people in your church or people at the grocery store. You know you’re out in the community really more than you are when you’re in a artificially…

MAGGIE: Created environment.


MAGGIE: That’s very stratified. And I always use to say, I don’t think I want my children socialized by a bunch of other eight year olds.


MAGGIE: Like, I really think that-

JUNE: Well and I’m-

MAGGIE: I would like for them to be-

JUNE: When you’re around-


JUNE: Kids-


JUNE: That are socialized by 30 other, you know-

MAGGIE: whatever age they are.

JUNE: Whatever age, who… And I feel like technology factors into this. Because what is homeschooling? It is an environment where you as a parent, teacher, get to make decisions about technology, which is a big thing and I feel like in our day and age, if your child is in any type of school, doesn’t matter what, the average age of the child that has their own phone, their own… It’s required to have an iPad, it’s required to have all these apps on it, is much, much, much lower and so that child’s interest… My children, if they have any access to those things, their minds that should be focused on beauty and nature or a great book or a piece of art. It is focused on I want to play that game. And so, when I think about socialization, I think about being around other people but I also think about that mind being freed from the tyranny of technology.

MAGGIE: Sure, yeah I think so too.

JUNE: Which makes a child’s mind much more attentive when they meet another adult or a child or a you know.

MAGGIE: But you are spending time with other families. I mean, the other thing is you not only have more ability to monitor the technology and how early they’re exposed and what they’re… But it’s the same way with people. And so suddenly I know all the people that my children are spending time with. And I just have more awareness even of that. Like we were talking about in terms of education.
You know, what is my child ready for? And just with that subject matter but it’s also like that with friendships and with different exposure to different types of personalities or people that may be-

CHRISTINA: Different.

MAGGIE: Different and that’s important. I mean I think exposing them to different types of people. But I’ve never felt a lack of that. And I think that’s what I hear behind that question is wow, you’re children are socialized. Well, we don’t just hang out with all the same sorts of people. Like, you’re able to give them, I mean like when our girls were working at Belle Mead. I mean they’re interacting with the public at a very young age and they’re learning how to give time to doing things that are cultivating those skills that kids who are in classroom all day, they just don’t have that.

CHRISTINA: Out in the real world.

MAGGIE:Out in the real world, yeah.

CHRISTINA: And so many other families are homeschooling, there is no lack of friends.

MAGGIE: No, no.

CHRISTINA: To get together with and moms to go back and forth with. Share information, share you know, homeschooling ideas, books, while the kids are playing in the backyard. That’s really a beautiful thing-

JUNE: Did you all see that little article this summer that had come out of Harvard?



JUNE: About how home… The dangers of homeschooling.


JUNE: And the graphic of the child kind of in this home jail-

CHRISTINA: Behind bars.

JUNE: Behind bars and all the other happy school children out there playing. I’m like here’s the picture people-

MAGGIE: I know exactly.

JUNE: It’s a bunch of kids that are either on their iPads-

MAGGIE: Or sitting at a desk.

JUNE: And in homeschool-

CHRISTINA: Sitting at a desk-

JUNE: My kids, who know every single one of their neighbors, who the baby across the street, when he’s out, they want to play with the baby. They don’t know that they’re 11 and they’re not supposed to be interested in younger children. You know or the elderly lady that lived behind us, you know who was in her nineties, that my daughter would go and hang out with and they would talk and play with the dog. And you know these rich relationships that form. So, okay I feel have we covered… I’m just ready in society for that to be flipped. I’m not on the defensive anymore.

MAGGIE: No, no, no, no.

JUNE: Homeschooled children are socialized children.

CHRISTINA: They are very social.

JUNE: They’re where we’re heading. You know, that’s what you’re wanting people.

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